Our Sexuality and the Power of the Lure!
First and foremost, I want to set the records straight by saying that
what we call love is nothing but our own perception of what we want
to feel. We can then say that we live in a lie and put ourselves in
harms way by allowing deception to play a leading role in our
everyday lives. This can also be called “drama”. And as we know
there are plenty of drama queens to go around.
Having said that let us move towards understanding what we do to
ourselves when:
• We allow deception to be play part of our every day lives
• And then we keep on making the same choices over and over
again, expecting different results, which by the way is the true
definition of insanity.
That takes us to our alternatives; which are:
• Identifying and understanding our strength and weaknesses
• And, understand and knowing what we really feel and be
okay with it
For what seems an eternity, we the humans that occupy space on
Mother Earth’s School have wasted priceless energy on what we
call falling in and out of love. The reason why I know this so well is
because I am one of those who have studied the subject up close and
personal. First of all I do not have any kind of issues with men or
with love; is a matter of fact I am a firm believer that we (men and
woman) need the opposite sex for its polarity.
However, I do have an issue with the energy that is been wasted on
figuring out if what we feel is love or is it because of a flitting feeling
that we think we are. That takes me to the ladies of the species that
throughout time have learned to play the game so well. Is a matter
of fact we even help each other by telling the other one what works
and what does not. In other words we tell each other more
deception, which can only lead to more deception.
I am not here to advocate celibacy, as a matter of fact what I do
hope after all is said and done that each of us see ourselves as
healthy humans who are not afraid to love their partner, deeply and
fondly and are willing to experience first hand all the emotions that
having a healthy relationship can bring. But in order to do this we
most let go of any and all excess baggage that we as individual have
brought upon ourselves before we can be joined at the hips with our
unsuspected better half.
As a woman I would like to say that there is no perfect woman
unless she is in love, deeply and truly in love. The problem is that
when something goes wrong (and we know it will) we have the
tendency of forgetting that we are just over reacting, perhaps even
hormonal and as the givers of life we are all powerful and can put
everything back into perspective.
As givers of life we are the co-creators of the energy level in our
lives, our homes and yes ladies our children’s lives as well as our
mate’s. It is time to take back the leading role that is rightly ours
and that for years has been taken away by left-minded brains not
knowing what they are doing or what they are talking about. While
it is true that more and more men are stepping up to the plate and
are more in touch with their feminine side, amazingly enough, we
the women are losing ours. My question is when did we lose it and
why are we so quick to give it up?
While it is true that men are getting in touch with their feminine
side this does not equate to us letting them have it all, for true love
comes from the heart that knows that it can trust itself as well as
others and if we are not in touch with whom we are (at what ever
step of the way this might be) we are simply not being ourselves so
we might as well be tossed aside like empty vessels.
Is this the way we want to be remembered by our daughters? Is
this what we are leaving as our collective legacy to the other females
that are coming after us? To think of how many woman have fought
so valiantly for us to have a right to have a voice, to have the right to
vote, to have a choice in all arenas, to be able to get better pay in the
workplace. And here we are ready to give it all up for a quick feel
good day at the spa.
Mind you, there is nothing wrong with a day at the spa, as a matter
of fact I love going to them myself and perhaps I don’t go as much
as I should. But one thing is to go to a spa to release tension or just
to feel good about yourself and another thing is when this becomes a
status quo symbol. All we hear of late is how many women submit
themselves under the knife in order to obtain a better figure. Is this
what it has come down to?
My question is what was wrong with the way you looked before?
And what is so dreadful about you that you need to change?
Cosmetic surgery should be left for and performed on those cases
that warrant it not those that don’t. Think that as you allow yourself
to be drawn into the abyss of this collective dilemma you are a part
of the negative energy associated with it. Think of what the doctors
who perform these operations are about. Pure ego! And this is
what you’ve become, no more and no less.
So instead of allowing ourselves to be more creative we have learned
to be craftier in lying about who we really are. By the way, the
reason why I say “we” is because I happen to know that we are
interconnected. Knowing this also helps me to see that what one
does affect the whole. So if one of us is doing what is so apparent of
no value to our soul, “we” the silent majority are in the same abyss
as the one going under the knife for egoistical reasons and illogical
reasoning.
Some women say that they go under the knife to make changes in
their physic to satisfy the man they are with. I am astonished at the
ghoul it takes to put all of us in harms way for a man that might
leave this hallow woman anyway and in the meantime is giving all
of us a bad name. But these are your bodies and your lives so go
ahead and put yourself in harms way for the man that eventually
with grow uninterested for you. I can see the tears running down
your face as you claim that you did it all for him.
Is it wrong that men want us to look good? Of course not, there is
nothing wrong with any of it. Everything under the sun is for us to
enjoy and do. Or else why would it be there to begin with? But the
only question is: Why is there a need to change the outer when only
the inner has true power and substance?
Why change for a man? If anything why don’t you change for
yourself? Why not feel good about who you are on the inside? I can
assure you that once you do, there will be no need to change
anything on the outer and anyone who should ask you to do so you
will know that they do not have your best interest in mind and for
sure he does not love you for the woman you are.
So, based on our society hold on the mundane, we can say that our
first form of deception in our relationships is visual in nature. We
are attracted to what we see and all we know is that we’ve got to
have it. It does not matter that we don’t know this person from a
hole on the wall. For all we know he could be an axe murderer.
But unfortunately for this unsuspecting male our hormones are
raging and we will stop at nothing until we have him were we want
him…. and then, after the hormones are back in check we simply
forget that we wanted him, and that we went after him.
This brings me to a very good point. Have you ever realized that we,
the females of the specie are the doers of it all? We go after the
guys with a passion, or so we think. We stop at nothing to have him
for ourselves. And then when we do, we lose interest. So my
question is; is this love or a female’s way of controlling the other
chickens in the coop? Could it be that we simple have to have
something we see and think we like and need, and dare call it love
for our ego’s sake?
Poor guys, they don’t know whether they are coming or going. The
drama we put them through. The unnecessary fights we cause and
create to get our way when all we’d have to do is speak clearly and
declare our intentions. You see the key element that is missing from
our relationship is honesty. Do you know what our intentions are?
Do you even know what you want or even better what you feel?
While it is true that some guys out there are womanizers I am
inclined to believe that these are not the ones that we are talking
about here.
I, for one would not go out with a womanizer. Then if that was to be
true how come I married one of them? This is not something that I
am either proud of or judge. This is as much a part of me as the air
I breathe. But one thing that I do know about myself is my need to
be honest about who I am and what I feel. I have discovered that
when I am honest with myself about my feelings and know what my
intension are everything becomes very clear and know exactly what
needs to be done. This is what people call miracles; so we can say
that we are the miracle workers.
Something else women do so well is judge. We judge ourselves; we
judge those we call our friends and even the ones we love. How do
you go from saying I love you, to I hate you in the same body,
moments later because of a disagreement? Here we are the
Goddesses of the world being our worse enemies. No wonder the
guys don’t know which end is up! We are sisters and together we
could change the course of our world, but not if we don’t know how
to fix our life.
Ladies let’s get real; the problem that we are facing is basic. It
starts by seeing life as something wonderful and not something we
most endure. As I see it Mother Nature does not need our approval
or opinion to make it rain. She knows what needs to be done and
does it. We on the other hand are in constant need of approval from
the outside sources that only help to keep us from ever reaching our
goals. Don’t you know that analyzing paralyses?
And as far as sex is concerned Mother Nature has it down packed.
Our true nature is simple, uncomplicated and logical. Our minds
however has taken a nose dive and in dire need of repairs. What I
don’t understand is why if when we are hungry we eat, when we are
thirsty we drink water, and when we are tired we rest, why is
having sex so wrongly labeled? Is sex not a bodily function? Is sex
not something enjoyable? Then why give it the connotations that it
does not have. Could it be that our perception is tainted in this
regard?
Many years ago a wise man said; “there is nothing right or wrong
but thinking it makes it so”. I for one tend to agree with
Shakespeare whole heartedly for there is nothing more pitiful than
those who are sexuality frustrated; and if you doubt that we are take
a good hard look. In my years of practice as both spiritual healer
and spiritual counselor I’ve come across many people who have
come to see me in search of answers; as to why they thought of
themselves as sexual victim or sexual predators, when in reality
neither case was true. However, after careful observation I have
ascertained that the majority of the people walking the face of the
world are sexuality frustrated and fear is the fuel on which it runs.
We live in a society that is full of guilt and shame without realizing
that guilt is what we do but shame is what we are. While guilt is
debilitating, shame goes to the soul and impairs our connection.
How if you think of yourself not worthy can you ever find peace and
joy in anything you do? And if sex has a bad connotation how can it
be enjoyed?
In reality we should be trying to learn more about who we really are
so that we can be in harmony with our nature. You see, I happen to
know that every relationship we have ever had or will ever have is
about ourselves. It has never had anything to do with anyone else.
The reason for this is that every relationship is based on our
perception and expectation. So if this is a true statement how can
anyone else be responsible for our happiness or our unhappiness?
Have you not seen yet that women are using sex as a tool or weapon
by which to lure men into their spider’s web? Shame on you! How
can something so wonderful and intimate be categorize as anything
else but what it is? No wonder we are sexually frustrated. Is a
matter of fact, even if you are having sex if these are your methods
to get your way you are still sexually frustrated. There are women
who have not have sex for years because to them it has a bad
connotation, this we understand, don’t like but understand, but what
is your excuse?
For instance, we have found a way to move out of the clan mentality
and have moved to suburbia. We drive nice cars and our wardrobe
is up to snuff. Nothing wrong with that except we are sexuality
deprived. In our efforts to compete with the Johnson’s we have cut
ourselves too thinly and what is of importance is kept at a distance
thinking that perhaps later we can catch up.
Later we find that our husbands are running around and we dare
call him all sorts of names when in reality we drove them out.
Ladies guys are in a relationship with a woman to have a woman,
and they stay with that woman based on how she makes him feel not
how nice she keeps the house. They have no idea about anything
that we want and trying to change them is like asking a lion to go
after the catch. It’s just not their thing!
We can try to think that we are more evolved than men are all we
want, but as long as you like the male of the specie and you happen
to be a female, you might as well get with the program and come out
of the hole that you carved for yourself because life is happening
right now and the last time I checked, this is not a dress rehearsal
and its called “Your Life”
Rev. Rina A González
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